During our courtship period, one day Sanjay asked me casually, 'what do you ultimately want from life?' and without any delay I replied, 'I want to be happy'.
Another time during a discussion with a friend she mentioned, 'is happiness all?' and I told her, 'for me, being happy is all'. And I wasn't lying or trying to be modest. To me, life's ultimate aim is to be happy. Atleast that is how it is for me.
I do things that make me happy. I try to be around people who make me happy. I stay away from things and people who make me unhappy. Period.
There are innumerable things that give me pleasure. There are countless people I have met who have made me smile and given me memories that still bring a pleasant curve to my lips when I think about them. And there is one thing quite common in all these memories.
|(Having sweet moments with Pahal)|
These are mostly about small, simple things. Nothing complex. Nothing too over rated or difficult to achieve or epic or too good. These are just small, little things that have given pleasure in some way or the other.
One can derive happiness from anything that he enjoys doing. It can be when you do things for others. Or when you set a goal for yourself and achieve it. Or when you feel optimistic about life. Or when you are with your family having good moments of togetherness.
Right now I am in M.P. on a short holiday with my family. Today morning while Pahal laid asleep, Sanjay and I talked about various things. Nothing too complex there as well. Not about his official policies and decision making dilemmas. Very basic things like what stories appeal more to people than others. Or what clothes would we wear for the Jungle Safari today. We also talked about some important things in our life. About how a happy married is the backbone of a happy life (in case you are married).
Last evening we laughed our heart loud for over an hour when Pahal tried to enact a play and we followed her silly instructions.
About an hour ago when I was trying to feed her, her daddy gave a statement and I pretended to reprimand him. Pahal, now being a big girl, figured that out and said, 'mumma.. don't pretend. I know you are pretending and so is Papa. But I will not eat this because I know both of you are pretending'. I had my jaw drop when I heard her saying this but at the same time, I made me realize that she is growing up. And soon she would be telling us things.
There are millions of such moments that genuinely make us forget the rest of the world for a while. These are the moments that club together and give us a happy life.
|(Jumping with joy)|
Happiness is not an entity which is to be grabbed or bought or stolen or created. It is an everyday joy. The pleasure in small, simple things we do in life.
It is the result of what we do and how we take it.
Pahal wasn't eating at all and I was about to lose my temper when she said that both of us were pretending. I could have reacted with anger because she was coming up with new excuses each time I tried to give her a bite. But I chose to laugh and hug her when she out smarted us. Why? Because I am here to live happily.
I want to be happy. I have chosen to be joyous.
And not to forget, sometimes happiness can be something as simple as opening a bottle of coca-cola or eating that damn piece of cake or buying a new top.
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