How to Deal With People You Think You Can't Deal With

More often than not we get stuck up with people who seem to be difficult to be dealt with. Many a times we are with people who we are connected to but don't find a connection with.

The person is utterly boring and uninteresting but you have to spend time with him. You just can't find a common ground to strike a conversation or blatant enough, you don't even want to. I admire people who have the courage to stand up and walk away in such situations. But majority of us don't want to come across as rude or impolite and thus try to put up with the situation in the best possible manner. I, personally, don't find dealing with people difficult. In my opinion, I am good at it unlike any of my family member and that is precisely because whenever I meet or talk to a person, I usually try to learn about them, if not from them.

Here are few things you can do when you are confronted with a person you can't stand:

Imagine yourself to be a talk show host or a psychologist. Pretend to be nice. There is no harm in pretending if it is a matter of few hours and it is not going to take a toll on anything. Imagine in your mind, you are hosting a talk show and you have a boring guest but as part of your duty, you have to have him on the show for a fixed duration. Or imagine you are a psychologist and you are here to treat your patient.

Look for a common ground. Ask about the other person's background. Learn about his family, his past struggles, achievements, dreams and his strengths. Ask questions, listen. Maybe when he tells you about his past experiences, you learn the factors that have shaped him into what he is today and you find a common ground to talk.

He may hold the same opinion about you. So many times we think the other person is a snob and then we get to know that he thinks the same about us. Find out if the other person has the same opinion about you as well. Maybe he thinks you are a bore which is why he didn't care to open up enough.

Remember, every person is beautiful at depth. Ya ilaahi kya kya sooratein banayi hain ki har soorat kaleje se lagane ke kabil hai. Deep inside the skin, every person is beautiful and worth spending some time with.

Everyone is imperfect. If nothing else we all have one thing in common - imperfection. Based on this commonality, go ahead and enjoy conversations with people around you.

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