We all have conflicts and we face problems.
If you are honest with yourself you would realize that most of the times or rather always, these conflicts arise when we lose focus. Okay, look at it this way. You are having a nice time in your studies or at work, And then you feel you are not able to understand your lessons or that you are not able to complete your work on time. Why is it? Because you lost your focus. From the books, your focus moved to movies or friends and from work you diverted your mind to Facebook or Online chatting.
Similarly in a love relationship as well, problems come only when you lose your focus from your mail goal. What is your mail goal you would ask. Your main goal in any relationship and particularly, in a marriage should be to grow!
Focus on growing up as an individual and as a couple as well. Encourage and support your partner to grow as well. Compliment him often. Help him achieve his ambitions. Let him move ahead, grow and attain success. You must also not lose the sight of your ultimate destination.
Learn. Read. Listen. Grow.
I firmly believe that it is this simple and I must tell you I have been following it in my life. I make efforts to stay focused on his strengths and help him in doing what he loves to do. He likes reading and I often hand over the newspapers and other news magazines to him that he is interested in reading. I know it often costs me few hours of isolation from him (as he gets immersed in his newspapers) but when he finishes reading them off, his eyes sparkle with the knowledge he has just gained and he feels good about himself which in turn benefits my relationship with him immensely.
So, from now onwards, instead of thinking about why he is not on time for the party or how you should tell him about what his mom said to you, you should spend some time focusing on your and his personality enhancement.
Focus on your well being and help him in becoming a better human being.
Happy a happy week!