“True love is supposed to make you into a better person-uplift you.”
― Emily Giffin, Love the One You're With
Very recently I got an email from a reader who asked me that two of her friends professed their love for her. She likes both of them but is confused about who loves her truly. My post today is dedicated to her.
I truly believe in the power of love. True Love. It can move mountains and it can stop tsunamis. Things that one never imagined he/she would ever do, they do it so naturally when in love. True love changes you.
Even now, after about 3 yrs of marriage, I meet my husband's friends and they tell me 'he is so changed. He is not the person we knew!' and then they remark 'the change is for the best!' I have noticed my husband change, evolve and grow. Same with me. My family keeps pointing out the changes in me. And I am proud to say that I have learnt a lot from him. And now when my baby is born, both of us have again evolved. And Sanjay, he is like a completely new man! A person who once claimed (before the birth of his baby) that he might not have a 'different' string of attachment for his baby is now more than a doting father and often kisses her for making him experience fatherhood.
True love lets you grow. It is one quality that you should look for in your partner. Your lover should let you evolve. He should help you to develop. To move ahead. To achieve more. To attain more. To feel more.
One who supports you to take steps further towards your life's ultimate aim is the one who truly loves you. He may not claim he would die if you left him but he would promise 'if you are not there, I would make sure your dream is fulfilled'.
Go for matured love. One that does not bind you but instead liberates you. True love does not restrict you. It does not suffocate you. It lets you breathe.
True love lets you be you. And helps you to become a better human being.
“True love isn't expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.”
― Joshua Harris