First of all, I am becoming a big, bigger and biggest fan of your blog day by day. Every article is so touching and one can relate well to itself.
My story started when I met this guy more than three years ago, towards the end of 2008. I have never believed in love at first sight, but here was this guy and I was in love with his smile. Slowly and gradually being with him made me realize that this guy loves me but on the other hand, I never realized when did his love became so over-possessive. It was once that we went to a market nearby where a classmate tried talking to me while he was drunk (despite that he did not misbehave). And, later I come to know that these people ended up in a fight over this issue. The stupid me then thought him to be protective for me.
However, things became difficult when this started happening on a regular basis. Any male around me could not be tolerated by him, in fact any person around me would make him insecure. This insecurity made us keep fighting over petty issues. Sick and tired of these fights I decided to leave him and went as far as possible.
But time caught us together again. One fine day, after being away from him for a year and a half, trying to not think about him, we bumped into each other. Meeting each other once itself brought us back in the relationship. Over these years, he has changed a lot, but deep inside he is still the same person. He likes putting restrictions on me and I hate that. Things change for some days when ever I complain against these restrictions.
I am stuck, cannot make a decision if one meeting after being away for almost two years brought me back to him, how can I ever forget him? My biggest concern is will I be able to do justice to the guy I finally marry. People say time heels everything, so isn't a time period of almost two years more than enough to forget somebody. And most importantly, how do I get out of this relationship without getting in a fight.
P.S. we are still in contact with each other and I have been trying to break up with him. And, no matter what ever I tell him, it is just not happening.
I am very sure that some good advice will come from your end. Please help.
Thanks so much for liking my blog. I am really grateful to you guys. Your support and love is all what I need.
First and foremost I believe - If you can live without him once, you can live without him always!
You broke up with him and you moved on with your life then there was no need to step back in life. Always think of moving ahead. It is not wise to move backwards as life always moves forward.
Now that you are with him, you need to find out - once and for all, what you want.
If you can live with his restrictions, his love and protection. Keep up with it. If not, just leave him and move on. From my own personal experience I would suggest - go on! Get a fast track ;) Move on. He he he..
Be with a man who lets you move, lets you grow, encourages you to go ahead in life, asks you to touch the sky. How old are you? If you are working, its fine. If not, I suggest focus on your career first and tell him the same. Tell him your career, your freedom and your ambitions are very important for you.
The reason he is so possessiveness about you is because he is insecure.
If you think breaking up with him is difficult and he does not let you break up.. then do it in a subtle and slow manner. Reduce the calls slowly. Reduce them from 5 per day to 3 per day. Tell him about your exams or new assignment at work that needs more time from you. Don't tell him everything your daily routine. Start separating yourself from him in your heart first and then put it to action.
All the best. I hope I hear from you next month with a happier you! Keep me posted. :)