Womanatics: True Story: Discovered Love After Marriage

Hi Surabhi,

I love your blog. I like each and every article that you write. I do not have a unique love story to share with you but I am sure you will enjoy my story.

I am the youngest in my family. We are three sisters. And I am closest to my dad who is a very honest man. I can do anything for him.

My elder sisters were good at studies but could not get through the medical exam. SO one did masters in biology, other is doing PhD in biotechnology. My dad was always upset with it that none of his daughters is a doctor. I decided to pursue to his dream. I started working hard for this.

Thankfully with his blessings I got a seat in medical. As I entered in my MD 1 st yr, my dad started looking for matches. By then both of my sisters were married. I was also okay with the idea of arranged marriage.

There were lot of proposals but my dad liked one proposal the most. He was a doctor and my dad told me that he liked his simplicity the most. I met him 2-3 times and started admiring him for his passion for his service and his down to earth nature.

But just before marriage I started getting weird thoughts about my marriage. I started wondering what if I start disliking him after marriage; what if I never fall in love with him etc etc. But it was too late and moreover, I was not in love with anyone. And I also knew that my conservative parents would never allow a love marriage and their happiness was my top priority. My top most worry was what if my husband does not allow me to take care of my parents. I dont have a brother and I am always worried about who will take care of them in their old age. My sisters were busy in their married lives and their in-laws did not allow them to spend lot of time at my parents’ house. But I thought I am a doctor. I will explain my priorities to my husband at the very start itself.

I got married to him. Time just flew by after my marriage. I could not stop myself from loving him more and more. He is a simple person. So nice, such a dedicated doctor. He practices for a day in a nearby village without charging any fee.

And more than that, he encourages me to take very good care of my parents. We spend lot of time in talking. We discuss human body issues, India’s problems, parents in old age etc. I love interacting with him as each time I talk to him I am enamoured by his knowledge, compassion and simplicity.

Today, we are married for more than 5 years. I visit my parents every week (as we are in the same city) and we have a 3 yr old son. I just can not be happier than this.

And I know if I were not married to him, I would not have discovered love in my life. Marriage means love for me.