As you know this is my second question to you. And thank you so much for being there. You are my best friend online :D
You know that I am getting married. My fiance is a very understanding, matured and educated person. We both like each other a lot. He is also very honest and he has told me everything about his family, his life and his past to me. But he does not have any relatinship with any girl. I am the first girl he has talked with. But I have a past. You know about it. Should I tell him about my past? I love my fiance and want the relationship to start from truth. When he tells me about his life, I feel guilty that i am hiding things from him. But i have read your article and everyone tells me I shoudl not tell him. What to do? What if I hide it from him and he finds out later? - A
Hey dearest A,
My answer to this is - NO.
There is absolutely no need to tell him anything. I know and I agree tha you should begin your relationship based on truth. So tell him the truth - the relevant truth.
Things that are not relevant do not matter at all. Read this article again - Why you should not tell your partner about your past.
I dont think he will find out. And if he does, you will be far ahead in your relationship with him and I am sure at that time, these things will not matter for him too. Do not take it as hiding, take it as starting fresh leaving everything behind. If at all, you wish to tell him, just say that you were friends with someone.. but better still, do not tell him.
Men are men. You may think that he would take it rightly but a man who has never had any relationship with anyone will hardly not think about his woman's past.