Smile is a curve that sets many things straight.
I sincerely believe in the above statement. A smile is none less than a small wonder. It conveys lot of things. You can smile and be sarcastic! You can spoil someone's surprise by a light grin; you can genuinely make somebody's day with a warm smiling greeting and above all, you can actually make up after an argument with just a smile!
I have recently discovered its tremendously wise effect on every day arguments. Since last few days we have this happening at home. Whenever we argue, one of us starts smiling. And though that ruins my purpose of arguing with him (I want him to kneel down and say sorry to me), but I have clearly understood the good it does to us. It diffuses the argument immediately. :)
Many small issues can be instantly resolved if we take few things lightly. This approach of considering few things unimportant or light has had an amazingly positive effect in my personal relationships and life. After marriage, I somehow got transformed into a person who took everything seriously. I used to get upset on many small things initially - net does not work and I would be totally oppressed with Andamans, I have a small argument with Sanjay and I would be depressed, I want to try out some new recipe or DIY craft and the material is not available in the market on the day, I would decide never to try it anytime again. Such was the condition.
Slowly, I realized that being this extra-sensitive and extra-cautious would not help me or my family. And I decided to help myself. With time and with conscious efforts, I began to go back to my original, happy-go-lucky self that I was before marriage. And one thing I had got back is my almost all time available smile. I am now much calmer, composed, happy and content.
This has also helped us in our married life. Mr. Thinker is still the same man - calm, composed, content. I was the hyper woman initially but now we both have achieved a balance that I wish continues to be so for ever.
In all this while, the one lesson that I have learned is that if you want to be happy, you can be. It is a choice that one has to make. If you smile, you will smile. And for the time that the smile is there, you will have a smiling moment.