This time we have two questions in Ask Womanatics section and few more are lined up. I would request the readers to kindly send in their questions by email as that way it is easier for me to track the questions as well as the answers.
B asks -
I am 28, single child and my parents wish to marry me off. I am in a good job but still feel to do higher studies.My parents have found a guy in USA and they want me to get married to him as they know the family and the guy. I may not get a good job in us and may be have to sacrifice my career.what should i do?Parents are worried since my age is increasing.
Womanatics Answers -
Hi,
Sorry dear for the late reply. I was travelling and then I always want to reply in detail to my readers which is why I usually get late in replying but then I reply at length and with patience. :)
Aaah.. when I read your email, I was like.. omg.. this is so very me! I thought absolutely the same few yrs back when I was single. I wanted to continue with my singlehood forever until I realized that I needed a companion and a partner for life.
In my opinion, what you need to concentrate on is - the guy! Forget about career, place, parents etc.. just think about the guy. If you have a good partner, everything else will fall in place. And who says you wont get a job in US? And sweetie, always try to grow.. I always insist on one's growth and constant development. Why do you want to restrict yourself as a person who can get job only in India and not in US?
If you think this guy is the best partner you can have, my suggestion is go ahead. But if you are not 100% convinced about him, you can wait.
Marry the guy who convinces you 100%. Someone for whom you are very sure that you can be happy for the rest of your life.. no matter he is in US, India or Africa.
Hope this helps. Let me know what you decide. Would love to hear from you. :)
B asks -
I am 28, single child and my parents wish to marry me off. I am in a good job but still feel to do higher studies.My parents have found a guy in USA and they want me to get married to him as they know the family and the guy. I may not get a good job in us and may be have to sacrifice my career.what should i do?Parents are worried since my age is increasing.
Womanatics Answers -
Hi,
Sorry dear for the late reply. I was travelling and then I always want to reply in detail to my readers which is why I usually get late in replying but then I reply at length and with patience. :)
Aaah.. when I read your email, I was like.. omg.. this is so very me! I thought absolutely the same few yrs back when I was single. I wanted to continue with my singlehood forever until I realized that I needed a companion and a partner for life.
In my opinion, what you need to concentrate on is - the guy! Forget about career, place, parents etc.. just think about the guy. If you have a good partner, everything else will fall in place. And who says you wont get a job in US? And sweetie, always try to grow.. I always insist on one's growth and constant development. Why do you want to restrict yourself as a person who can get job only in India and not in US?
If you think this guy is the best partner you can have, my suggestion is go ahead. But if you are not 100% convinced about him, you can wait.
Marry the guy who convinces you 100%. Someone for whom you are very sure that you can be happy for the rest of your life.. no matter he is in US, India or Africa.
Hope this helps. Let me know what you decide. Would love to hear from you. :)
All these points are agreeable and I really appreciate your blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sophie..
DeleteI totally agree with all the points that Surabhi has mentioned.. You should definitely be convinced for the guy more than anything in life..
ReplyDeleteThankyou Tanviiiiii.. for agreeing with me. I am waiting for your email.
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