I believe in the age old wisdom - distance makes hearts grow fonder. I have experienced it several times when just a slight distance makes me long for my loved ones more than otherwise. And I see several reasons for this.
My husband is out of town for a conference; he will be back on Wednesday and this week has already started feeling at its longest. When he is around, I yearn for some time for 'my-self', away from everyone for a while. But as soon as he left, I immediately felt vacant inside and outside. Home does not seem to be home without him as I do not have anyone to anticipate his arrival. However, I am glad we are away for sometime.
In each other's absence, we are better able to appreciate things that we do not feel thankful for during other's presence.
It is very important for a couple to spend some time away from each other every once in a while. It is important to spend some time with one's own self in complete solitude and also to be able to reflect on many things that are available only in the absence of everything else.
- It is important to stay connected with one's 'self' - In the daily chores of marriage and home, we often neglect connecting with our selves. Being away from everyone, including spouse, lets us be ourselves. We talk to our self and get answers to many evasive questions. This helps us in understanding many complex cobwebs of life around us. Once we are recharged with the energy from within, we are ready to embark on the daily journey of life with more rigour.
- Novelty brings freshness in a relationship - Going a little distant helps in doing something different than the regular things. You stay together for the most of the time and then stay apart - this is doing something new for both of you and certainly means freshness. For example, I yesterday went to a nearby island for the first time and today my husband is meeting up with one of his old time buddies. I am very happy for him as I wish he spends more time with his friends.
- It is also a test of your closeness - Such times are testing times. You are away from each other but still miss being together. And you do not let this distance get on to your nerves in a way that you are not able to concentrate on anything or work properly. These are the times when you know how strong your relationship is and how much you two mean to each other.
- Gifts! - This may be a little startling to write here but anyways. I think giving gifts is also very important in a relationship particularly when gifts is the primary love language of a person which is often the case with women. Before my husband left, I asked him for a camera and I am sure he will get me one on this trip hihihi.. And mostly, whenever he goes to some place, he brings something for me and his daughter.
After having read this, how many of you are now ready to pack bags for a short trip? ;)