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Hi Surabhi,
My ex has been threatening me. I broke up with him several months ago and I stopped all communication with him. I even changed my mobile number and stopped responding to his emails. I thought maybe he would get over me but he has found a new way of harassing me. He calls and emails my friends and says all the nasty things about me. Because of this action of his, my reputation is also getting hampered.
I spoke to his parents and they assured me that he won't commit a blunder again but I don't trust them anymore as they have given such assurances in the past as well.
I think the only resort left is the police action but I am afraid of this and don't want to take this step. Please suggest.
Dear Reader,
I understand your trauma and I know how it feels when someone bothers us to this extent. My earnest suggestion to you is to take your parents into confidence and tell them the truth. Just tell them the situation as it is and let them decide.
When things are beyond your control, its important to seek elder's help.
Let your parents deal with it in their manner. They should talk to him directly and speak to his parents as well. Also, they can approach the police and there is no harm in it.
People like him should be severely punished so that they dont attempt the same blackmailing again. Also, if he does not stop now, he may create the problem anytime in future as well.
You are an educated, modern woman so you should very well stand up for your right and seek police/law's help whenever needed.
Don't take him lightly.
Teach him a lesson so that he gets away from your life forever and does not try his filthy tricks again.
Talk to ur parents and to your present partner (if any)immediately. Keeping it within yourself or trying to solve it alone will only put you in stressful situation. You will lose your mental peace. so tell it to ur loved ones.
ReplyDeleteAgreed!
Deletejust stop paying heed.. ask your friends to tell your x-bf not to disturb.. you simply don't start a conversation or react to whatever he does.. he will stop... he wants some reaction and if you do not give attention.. he will stop.. :) and parents and loved ones will give you the support u need :)
ReplyDeletedon't be sad or tensed dear... consulting police is the best help..
very well said Sreya. I am sure this would really help her. Thanks girl :)
DeleteTalk to your parents. Let them decide. Plus also talk to your best pal and take out the anger. It must be hard to go through it all alone. Wo Jab we met mein dikhaya tha na, jo hai ugal do and then you will feel better. Aur jo parents & current partner kahe, maan lo... Stay blessed. :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, I have been telling her the same. SHe is a little hesitant to share it with her parents but I also think that if she takes them in full confidence, she would be highly relieved.
DeleteOne of the consequences of entering an emotionally invested relationship is what can follow after a break-up. You are entitled to your feelings and your space, but then so is your partner. Communicate your intent of taking action if the behavior persists, but be prepared to have to resort to it. Your partner might be deterred by fear of consequence, or he might think you are bluffing. As mentioned in earlier comments, keep your loved ones fully in the loop.
ReplyDeleteSubho,
DeleteThanks so much for bringing in a man's perspective. Thanks again. You are so right.. more than the emotional drain a person goes through in a traumatic relationship, its the consequential follow ups that cause more trouble. And you are also right about the bluffing thing. I have been asking her to cut all communication with him and talk to her parents about it. I hope she does that now.
Thanks a lot to all of you....my father met his father in person.everything is fine now.without your help this would not have been possible...a special thanks to you Surabhi :)
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