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Last night I spoke to a very good friend of mine and we talked about marriage, arranged marriage particularly. She is single, 28 and works with a MNC. She is the most level headed girl I have known so far and possesses an amazing sense of discretion. As she prepares herself for her journey called marriage, she wonders whats makes 'who to get married to' the most difficult question ever.
'Marriage is a long term thing and that makes everything about it just so important and a little difficult' I replied.
'This is it that scares me - that marriage is long term. There is no undo here. It sounds like a trap that is forever!' she quipped.
We soon moved onto a different topic after this brief conversation but her statement lingered on for a while. She was right. Until you get married, it is this 'forever thing' about marriage that sends people into frenzy.
It is not just about marriage I guess. I feel we take extra precautions with everything that is long term. The longer a decision would affect us, the more cautious we would be about it. Remember how much we think before buying a house, or before investing or deciding upon the college? These are still materialistic things and can be changed, altered or removed from life whenever needed and this makes marriage different.
Marriage means living with the same person. It means sharing everything with that same person (well, almost everything except your towel, comb and the likes). This means you share a big part of your life with this person. If and when this person goes away, he takes that part of your life with him. The time that you spent with this man would not be spent with anyone else. The memories that you created with him would always be there in your mind and would lay the foundation of the rest of your life.
Also, with materialistic things, the decision lies only on you and your pocket, but with people decision lies as much as on you as it does on the other person. He has to like you too for you to like him and vice versa.
So, yes it is imperative to be cautious about marriage simply because it will last forever!
But let me tell you that the best thing about marriage is that unlike all other things, marriage lasts forever.
Yes, it is the best and the worst thing about marriage that it is life long, at least that is how you begin to assume. No one knows what happens in future and even seemingly perfect marriages can also go wrong but we get married because we want to have a partner for life and when we do not want to get married that is also because we do not want to get trapped with one person for entire life. What makes the difference here? The person you get married to.
This person decides whether getting married to him is the best or the worst part of your life.
I agree unless you get married, you feel what if things go wrong? Taking a divorce is a pain. Being a divorcee is not an option for me. My parents wouldn't allow a separation and other such fears. At the same time, I also agree that if you get married to the right person, you wish for the marriage to last long, eternally long, even if things go haywire sometimes. It is the best kind of work.
Just remember what Stephen Gaines said about marriage,
“Being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.'
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