Follow Your Heart And Stay Married: An Interview With A Couple That Does Just This..9:29:00 AM
Today’s post is a little special as I feature the story of a young and adventurous couple who have taken to the path lesser known.
This post talks about a couple, Saurav and Pooja, who recently tied the knot. What makes them different from the rest is the fact that while both of them love travel, Saurav has taken years off from his work and has travelled to more than 50 countries so far!
I know Saurav through a common friend and his travel trips have continuously inspired me to travel but more than that I was intrigued by how he managed to lead a stable life of love and marriage by living an unstable life of a traveller himself. To seek answers of these questions, I decided to interview them.
|Saurav and Pooja together|
How did the two of you first meet and how long have you known each other for?
We met soon after we got to know each-other through a common friend. This was back in March'11 ..We're introduced on Facebook through our common friend in Jan'11 and after two months of chit-chatting, I flew from Bangalore to Delhi to meet her
Saurav - How did you first take up travelling? Was it planned or was it an impulsive trip that led to the trail of countless trips later? How did Pooja react to your decision of taking up world travel?
I showed the first symptom of being a wanderer when I was 4 but I got seriously bitten by the travel bug at the age of 21 while I was sleeping in a bus.
Back in 2006 when I was working in Udine, Italy; one fine weekend I decided to explore nearby places. I took a bus ticket to Tarvisio which is at the Italian-Austrian border but fortunately I slept and when I woke up I found myself in Villach, Austria. It was like waking up in a foreign land where I had no idea what to do. After panicking for an hour or so, I learned to flow with the flow. There was no returning back after that. I believe that in order to explore a city, we must get lost in it and as of Apr'14, I've done that over 200+ times in 50+ countries.
Pooja welcomed my decision. She could not join me then as she was doing her higher studies although I tried my best to convince her to leave her studies and come with me for world exploration.
Saurav - Tell us a bit about your project of ‘a year full of Sundays’.
Sundays are the days when we don't usually work under someone. We don't have a boss on Sundays and we do what our heart says. After 5 years of 9 to 5, I decided to live one year in which I could give full time to all the things I always wanted without caring about making money or working for anyone else. So I took a gap year and named it a 'year full of sundays'. I traveled extensively that year and extended my comfort zone whenever I came across an opportunity to do so. I documented it on a FB page here.
This video explains how it went in 94 secs. You can watch the video here.
Pooja - What do you do? Are you also a traveller like Saurav?
I'm a special educator and a travel enthusiast. Not a traveller like Saurav. I like to splurge while traveling but he likes to torture himself while backpacking. Just kidding!
Pooja - When Saurav first told you about his year long travel plans, what did you first think? Did you ever feel it was insane? While he followed his heart, did you feel you were left behind?
I think the reason that I never felt that it was an insane decision is that he is quite good at convincing. I got sold to his idea of the year full of sundays and he made sure that we keep meeting in between during his gap year. We met every second month or so while he was travelling all around. If he would have been away throughout the year, it wouldn't have been easy for me.
Saurav and Pooja - When Saurav went for his travel, how did the two of you keep in touch? Did it strain your relationship keeping the ‘long distance troubles’ in mind?
We were constantly in touch through Facebook and skype. Saurav documented almost each day of his gap year and although it was at times tough to be away, we were always looking forward to our next meet.
We had our share of fights but I don't think YFOS strained our relationship. Rather, while being apart, we realized we cannot live without each other.
First, please accept my heartiest congratulations on getting married. I saw your pictures on FB and you both looked fabulous. Now that you are married, what are the plans of settling down in one place. How do you plan to keep travels coupled with setting up a house and running it?
Thank you Surabhi and Womanatics team! Our plan is to keep a balance between work and travels and never settle anywhere for long. We would like to move our basecamp every 2-3 years to a new location and continue traveling till we have energy to do so.
|Saurav and Pooja frolicking on a beach resort in Maldives|
Pooja - How do you think a couple can live together happily while suporting each other in their individual endeavours? I personally feel a little space is essential in every relationship. Do you agree?
Totally agree with you, Surabhi. Infact, I think a couple can live together happily ONLY if they support each other in their individual endeavours. A couple should stay together as if they are best friends.
Saurav - What is your advice to youngsters who have a passion burning deep inside their heart but have tied themselves up in 9-5 job or in the vicious circle of work-home-family? How do you think they can break it and give wings to their desires?
Don't hesitate to give yourself everything you ever wanted in your life. It's better to cross the line and suffer the consequences than to just stare at the line for the rest of your life. Just jump off the cliff and build wings on the way down.
One last question to both of you - If I ask you for one small advise about keeping a relationship healthy and happy, what would it be?
Forgive even when it's hard. Do what you love and break the rules once in a while :)
Hope you guys enjoyed reading about them as much as I enjoyed asking them these questions. Show some love and shoot in the comments! :)