Monday, May 19, 2014

True Story: Why I Can't Wish 'Mother's Day' To My Mom This Year

Hello All, 

I read this touching message on a friend's status update on Mother's Day. I was very touched when I read it and it seemed more poignant because it was so heart felt. I asked her if I could put it up on my blog and she readily agreed. You can read the message below. It comes from Payel, whose mom's letter I published on the blog sometime ago. You can read the letter here. Off to Payel now. Also, don't you think she should write a blog post for us? If yes, let her know by pouring in the comments. 

Mother's Day


Payel with her mom and granny

Every Mother's Day I put up a status just like you all saying just how lucky and fortunate I am to have mom in my life, how she is the single best thing that ever happened to me and how I want to make her feel so very special today. Every year, just like a million other lucky sons and daughters, I wait eagerly for this second Sunday of May. This year, however, I have been dreading this day. A part of me is secretly wishing, mummy doesn't login to Facebook at all today. That somehow in her Sunday chores, the day just whizzes by and she fails to notice. Alas! That won't happen. Thanks to our invasive media, social and otherwise, the countless advertisements would take care that nobody, absolutely nobody gets past today without noticing it's Mother's Day. And yet again with some teeny weeny hope, I pray, she fails to notice. For this Mother's Day is my mother's first without her mom. And no matter how much love her kids, her husband, her dad and her brothers shower upon her, it will never add up to what she misses - today and everyday! 

A mom's love can never be replaced and the emptiness it leaves in your heart when she leaves is there to stay. I can hardly imagine what its like to wake up one day and know your mom is gone. Forever. I know it's the eternal truth but I don't want to imagine. And I hate to say it to you all, but this truth of life is universal. My truth here is no different from yours. And though Mother's Day definitely isn't the day to prepare yourself to brace this, but it certainly is the da to hug her just a little tighter, smile for her just a little brighter and say those three words rarely said to a mom anymore these days - 'I love you mom'. I love you very very much, mummy. 

And this is what I want to say to you -- all these years you have been a hell of a mom to me, but it's my turn now. I know I can never match up to Dida (grandma), but I try everyday. Everyday, I wake up and I try to be your mom. And though I will never quite get there, I hope it's making a difference. 

I am not scared anymore that you may wake up and notice it's Mother's Day. Infact, I hope now you wake up and login to Facebook first. I know tears will roll down your cheeks as you read this message, but I also know they will land on a beautiful smile - Happy Mother's Day!

9 comments:

  1. Wonderful message. And yes, Payel should definitely be doing a post out here!!

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    1. Thank you Shubhorup!! I may actually consider doing one with enough coaxing from Surabhi! :)

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  2. I can feel the pain Payel. This year I also was not able to wish my mom as she left me all alone. Life without mom is hell.
    Miss you maa...Life has been completely changed after you. Why you left us. Wish some magic could happen and I could get you back.
    Love u so much maa

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    1. I know how you must be feeling Rina. Even with all the wide wisdom available to us on earth, we are yet to accept and make peace with the harsh reality of near and dear ones leaving us!

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  3. Payel, you should certainly write more posts. We would love to read your articles. Surabhi, you should bring her on board. Also, this was brilliant. - Neha.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Neha!! With such overwhelming appreciation from all of you, I guess I will write more often after all. :)

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  4. This was emotional... I called my mom right after reading this!! I loved your post dear! mommy's are the best!!

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    1. Good move there Vidhi. I was hoping my post would inspire at least one person to call their mom right away. Glad you were that one! My day is made, yay! :)

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  5. Surabhi - Thank you so much for publishing my post. Good to hear from fellow readers!

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