First of all, congratulations! If you’re reading this, it means you have managed to not delay the inevitable. It means you have stood up for something. You took a stand and said ‘Enough is enough!’ And God knows it wasn’t easy. Heck, it’s probably one of the hardest things you have had to do.
I’m here to tell you that the hardest part – breaking up – is over, so you can breathe a little. But it doesn’t get easier right away. In fact, the first week will probably be tough on you. So I’ve put together a guide to help you get through the first 7 days after your break-up.
Monday:: The Morning After
You wake up and you’re about to check your phone for any messages from Him. As you reach for your phone, you suddenly remember you broke up with him last night! Was it a dream, you think to yourself. No, you recall the conversation and remember you definitely broke up. It seemed like the right thing to do at that moment, but why do you feel like shit now?
It’s normal to have doubts the next day after a break-up. After a night’s sleep, you wake up and all that anger is gone. All that’s left is a question mark, wondering if you did the right thing. Here’s where you must remind yourself of the reason you broke up with him in the first place. If it wasn’t so bad, it wouldn’t have pushed you to break up, right? So keep that thought with you and don’t let it slip away. You’re going to need it to get through the week.
Tuesday:: The Realization
Yesterday you were still shocked and likely to be in denial. You made it through the day because you managed to shut out all your thoughts & emotions.
But today is when it will hit you. You’ll get through the day with a trance-like state. Everything is hazy and blurry, and you don’t feel like doing anything. You might even be tempted to call in sick and stay in bed. Do that, if you want. It’s okay to wallow and cry. You won’t feel like talking to anyone yet. Which is okay too.
Today is a good day to get rid of things that will remind you of Him. Photos. Stuffed animals. Cards. Flowers. Anything that makes you think of Him. If you can’t bear to throw them out yet, that’s fine. Stuff them in a box or keep them hidden somewhere.
Wednesday:: The Temptation
After two days of not talking to Him, today you will most definitely feel like calling Him.
Now, before you do that. Take a minute to think about what you will achieve by calling him. You will tell him you miss him, he’ll say he misses you too. And then what? He will talk you into reconsidering your decision, which will leave you more confused than ever. Play that scenario in your head, and you should be able to get rid of the urge to call him.
If that doesn’t work and you’re still tempted to call him, my remedy would be to revert to anger. Okay, so anger is not the healthiest emotion in the world, but for this purpose, anger is recommended. Plus, it’s healthier to be angry, than to be in an unhealthy relationship, isn’t it?
It’s midweek, and you only have a few more days to get through the worst week of your life. Take a deep breath. You will be just fine.
Thursday:: The Depression
Today, all of a sudden, you may feel extremely sad. You have gone through almost a whole week and there’s no one to share it with. Life is boring and depressing and you just don’t want to go on alone anymore.
Well, guess what, you’re NOT alone! You have family and friends who love you and care for you. Give them a call. Go out for dinner. Talk to them. I promise you will feel like a weight has been lifted.
Friday:: The Reflection
You’ll be glad to know that today you’ll feel a whole lot better, because it’s Friday! You will feel a bit nervous about spending a Friday night without Him, but also a little excited to be spending the night YOUR way.
I wouldn’t recommend going out drinking as yet, because getting drunk could probably lead you to calling Him, or hooking up with another guy. And both of these scenarios won’t end well during a break-up.
So, why not have a night-in instead. Watch a movie or read a book. Order any take-in you’ve been craving. It’s going to be a relaxing peaceful night, just you & your couch.
Your thoughts will go back to Him from time to time, but you won’t feel sad anymore. You won’t feel angry anymore too. You will reflect upon your decision and know that it was the right thing to do.
Saturday:: The Pampering
Being in a relationship means your weekends are usually spent together. But now you have a whole Saturday to yourself with no interruptions, and this thought excites you more than anything.
Set out to making the day about YOU. Pamper yourself. Schedule a spa & massage session, manicure & pedicure, and get your hair done.
Then take yourself to a nice restaurant, order your favorite dish with a glass of wine.
Do you hear that? The sound of solitude. It’s not that bad, is it? Your body is relaxed, and so is your mind. And in this moment, you will actually feel good about yourself and your decision. You feel content about where you are in life, and the fact is you don’t need a man to share every moment with. You love your freedom and you are excited about where your life will take you next.
Sunday:: The Strength
Today you will wake up feeling much better. It’s hard to believe only six days has gone by, when it feels like forever. You look back at yourself six days ago, and realize you’re not that sad lonely girl anymore. Today you are strong. Today you know you can get through anything. And you know you’re going to be absolutely fine.
You call your family & friends again, to thank them for being here, and to let them know you’re going to be okay. You feel appreciative for having them in your life, and more importantly, you know that you are the bestest friend you will ever have, and you appreciate yourself even more.
Congratulations, you have made it through 7 days of hell. It’s only going to get better from here.
Note: This guide (based on a true story) is sent by Nimarta Srinarula. Please share your love in the comments.
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