This thin, petite book brings a totally fresh view on the skills of having conversations. The most striking feature of the book is the way a ‘beautiful mind’ is defined!
In all normal conditions, we never associate the adjective beautiful with mind. It is usually attached with face and seldom shifts down to the body. But here is a brilliant mind who has given a new dimension to the beauty of mind.
To genuinely understand the sincerity of the advices and ideas given in the book, we first must learn a bit about Edward De Bono.
Edward De Bono is the father of the famous management term ‘Lateral Thinking’ and is the author of various management and thinking books including ‘Lateral Thinking’, ‘Six Thinking Hats’ and ‘How To Have Creative Ideas’. A Cambridge laureate Bono is highly revered for his ability to bring out innovative thinking.
Okay, I am not going to bore you with his credentials while using management jargons. The reason I have written this post is that I want to highlight the importance of having a beautiful mind.
Having read this aphorism at least a million times since childhood, we all now clearly understand why it is important to be beautiful. By mind, I mean!
Edward says a beautiful mind is one that attracts people and one which people want to engage in having a conversation with.
Before reading further we all must ask ourselves, ‘do people love talking with me? Do I attract them with my conversation skills? Or do people get attracted towards me by my face but run away the moment I utter a word? ’ These questions make us think how beautiful our mind is.
A person who has a beautiful mind engages people in a conversation that flows freely and is always sought after people. That is the reason we often come across people who may not have great personality but they win us over with the way they makes us feel comfortable with them.
The author, in this book, takes the reader through the various ways a person can develop an attractive mind. He states that if we are debating on something it is better to debate to take some knowledge from the discussion. It is futile to simply argue for nothing or to pull the other person down. Similarly, in a conversation one should not try to flaunt his expertise. Another important thing the book teaches is to take many things into consideration while talking to someone. A person may have an opinion based on his culture, study and many other factors and if his opinions don’t match yours, then don’t immediately jump to a conclusion instead think from his point of view.
These are just some of the important lessons readers carry away from the book. It teaches you how to agree, how to disagree, how to handle arguments, how to be interesting etc. Also the book contains a brief summary of his ‘six thinking hats’ concepts so that is definitely a bonus!
I am not sure if it is really possible to be so rational while talking to people, after all we all bump into jerks or rather we ourselves behave like dorks at time but it is for certain that if people apply some of the tricks of the book, they can surely solve lots of their problems of life. As I always say communication is the key.
All in all, a must read for anyone who wishes to attract people by who he is and how he actually thinks.