As a mother I can feel her joy. I can understand her yearning to hug her kids, to sleep tight with them and to feed them whatever they enjoy the most even if she can’t mostly afford it.
Sapna’s kids live in Kolkata with their grand parents while she lives and works here in Delhi. Her husband is not only an alcoholic but also abusive and half of the time he is out of work. This makes Sapna the sole bread earner in her family. She works for more than 12 hours in a day and sends 70% of her income to her in-laws for her children’s education and upbringing.
There is a doting mom inside my maid.
A mother who is strong enough to work for long hours so she can give good education to her children. A mother who loves her kids enough to start reverse counting the day they announce their home coming.
|(That’s Sapna – right after knowing her kids are coming home)|
In Andamans, a woman named Savitri used to come to clean my house. She was separated and lived with her only daughter. I once asked her story and this is what she told me, ‘my husband left me for another woman. I was three months pregnant then. I wanted the child because I knew the child was mine. I gave birth to my daughter. He didn’t even come to see her. One night he came to meet me and wanted to sleep with me. I refused. My daughter was less than a year old and I couldn’t leave her for a man like him. Plus, I didn’t want any relationship with him anymore. Since then, I have brought up my daughter on my own. My daughter is my world.’
Savitri is a single mom to a daughter in a remote village in Andamans. She didn’t remarry and nor asked for an alimony. She just wanted a total-separation from him. More than 25 years later, Savitri works in homes to earn money while her daughter is married and settled with two kids.
|(Savitri – a single mom)|
|(We celebrated Rajeshwari’s birthday by baking her a cake!)|
Motherhood is a joy accompanied by great responsibilities. With lack of resources, these only get more arduous and grueling. Yet mothers carry on, holding their kids onto their backs and hoping for a better future.
This Mother’s Day, let’s celebrate the moms in the maids. The women who support us in raising our families. The moms who go the extra mile so their kids can afford what our kids can easily have. The moms who are just like us – loving, worrying and forever for their kids.
And now let’s raise the toast for all the moms out there.
Moms who love their children not because they gave birth to them but because they give a piece of their heart to them and that piece of heart stays with the children forever.
Moms who shield their kids from all harms and create a bubble of love for them.
Moms whose love is selfless, kind and unconditional.
Have a happy Mother’s Day to all the moms whose every day is a children’s day.
Here’s a small tribute in the form of a poem ‘Wonderful Mother’ by Pat O’ Reilly
God made a wonderful mother,
A mother who never grows old;
He made her smile of the sunshine,
And He moulded her heart of pure gold;
In her eyes He placed bright shining stars,
In her cheeks fair roses you see;
God made a wonderful mother,
And He gave that dear mother to me.