In continuation with my post on ‘how to make your husband fall in love with you‘, I am now writing the post from the other perspective that is to tell you ways to make your wife fall in love with you.
As I said in my previous post, men are bad at expressing. Also in many cases, they are the sole bread winner of the family so they have lot of responsibility and have to take care of many things other than their work, office and finances. Still, men love their wives, the same way as women love their husbands. Just that they don’t express it so often and so clearly. Their hints are subtle and hidden in small acts.
I have now come to believe that it is us who are the start, breeder and the end of the problems. And this while gives me more control over my emotions, it baffles me as well.
Of late, whenever something bothers me I ask myself a few simple questions – why does it bother me, can I enable myself to not get bothered, what can I do to save myself from this stress etc. Most of the times I get clear answers but sometimes the answers evade me.
But women need expression – loud and clear. So, the first thing men need to do to make their wives fall in love with them is to express their love to them in the way ‘they want to hear or feel it’. Now here is the trick. Different women have different ways of feeling loved. So learn the language of love of your wife and express in the same language.
Express Your Love. Express, express, express. Express through a poem or a love letter if she likes words. Get her gifts or a pleasant surprise if she prefers surprises. Start helping her in everyday chores if she believes in actions more than the words or gifts. Learn her language of love and tell her how much you love her. Tell her this as the first thing in the morning and also as the last thing in the evening!
Show Responsibility Towards Her Family. Your wife sees you being so responsible for your family and so she wonders ‘wish, he was so responsible even for my family’. This does’t mean taking up financial responsibility, just show her that you are there for her family too. Women are affectionate, naturally. And they never want to lose the affection they nurture for their families. Make her feel that she is still very close to her family just the way she was before getting married.
Appreciate Her. Women go crazy for a good compliment. Ask me for that matter.
In the daily routine of household, work, children, in-laws and errands, women often feel ignored and many of their hard efforts get unnoticed. Women are such simple being that even a single compliment makes their day and they feel happy that atleast their work is being noticed. So, the first thing to do is to appreciate them. Compliment them on their work, multi tasking ability, their care giving attitude, their qualities of cooking great food, getting up earlier than you, keeping the house clean and above all tell them they are so beautiful.
Be Strong. In the previous post I wrote, ‘every woman loves a fascist’. So be strong. Show your strength morally and socially. That is what they want. Stand up for your wife. Don’t let her esteem bent down by anyone, not even your family or your family. Provide her the moral and social support whenever she needs it. Tell her you trust her instincts and that you would always be there for her. She should feel protected when she is with you. Make her feel protected and safe.
Be Very Loyal To Her. Loyalty is the core of any marriage. But certainly more than a man, a woman respects, demands and needs loyalty. Be faithful to her and not just physically but also emotionally. Any kind of infidelity will just kill them. And be assured that if you are loyal to your wife, you will get great rewards in return that will last forever.
Be Clean. In the movie ‘The Bridges of Madison County’, Robert (Clint Eastwood) asks Francesca(Meryl Steep) about how her husband is. She pauses for a thought and replies, ‘he is clean’.
Woman always like clean man. If you are untidy, change your habits immediately. Take shower daily, wear clean clothes and develop healthy, clean habits. This would certainly turn your wife on and would bring her closer to you.
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