We all have been there. Through times that seemed endless and the hardest. Through seasons that had never been there before. And through emotions that were completely out of control.
These are the times of heart wrenching break ups. A heart break is not necessarily a break up of a relationship. It can be a failure in that final, last and the most critical exam. Or a betrayal from a friend. Or simply a financial loss.
Human heart has so many strings attached and so many are the possible causes of a heart strain.
But one has to move on. For the same heart that has got broken wont stop beating. It beats and keeps you alive. So you have to live.
We have a tendency to fall down in times of heart break. We love doing nothing; sitting idle and thinking or crying; resorting to drinking and smoking and trying to kill time. We do this because this is the EASIEST thing to do. Doing nothing is easy.
But this downfall, similar to a swing that comes down from a height feels exciting, relaxed and adventurous till we land on the ground. Once we are on the ground, we look up and that is when we feel the loss of the time, energy, resources, family and friends.
Here are ways to help you move on after you have had a devastating breakup.
- Seek help – there is never any harm in reaching out to people and even getting emotionally dependent on them for a while. Seek help of your friends and family. Confide in them. This will not only help you in recognizing your true friends but will also help you to regain your lost strength.
- Recognize your purpose – after a failed attempt, we mostly spend time in introspecting the causes and mourning over the loss while it is the perfect time to ask yourself a few good questions. Recognize your purpose.
- Feel light emotionally – this particular relationship or activity was consuming a lot of your time. Feel free that it has finally happened. You are no more bound to it that was internally causing pains and deterioration. Feel light and move up.
- Read and write – this one certainly helps. There are numerous blogs and magazines to give you a good reading exercise. Read a lot. Read about people who have had similar experiences and how they dealt with it. If you are not a reading person, write it down and delete it.
- Take a break – take a break from all things familiar. Move to a different place or take up a job or meet new people if you think the familiarity sucks. Taking a break will bring freshness.