Isn’t it good to wait to hear the other side of the story before actually jumping to any conclusion?
Ofcourse yes, many of you would say. But then at times letting it go makes more sense. After all, we all have tight schedules and oh! our egos. If she does not have time to respond to me, am I fool to still write to her? Oh come on, what is it so important that she can not even call back once? We have our own set of arguments ready to persuade ourselves to let it go.
But I believe patience has its own rewards.
I left a message for her and she still did not respond. I had almost decided to never contact her again and then suddenly I asked myself, ‘have I heard her story?’ No.
Okay, so let me wait for some more time. I will leave it only when I get to know her reasons.
I am glad I kept it holding. Finally she wrote to me today. It was a long reply that immediately made me forget all my grudges and I instantly called her up. We spoke for about 20-25 mins that too when network dropped the call atleast thrice. I felt light after talking to her.
We were very close friends back in college and school. Living in neighborhood only added to our moments of fun, support to each other and mutual understanding. We spent around good 5-6 years together and no trouble seemed trouble to me when she was around. I admired her more for her simple looks, traditional behavior and yet unconventional thinking.
And then, she kind of vanished! I took up a job far away from my home and she went for further studies. When she took up her job, I went abroad for higher studies. We both got quite busy with our careers and personal life. We spoke couple of times in the mean time but never really talked.
I spoke to her once couple of years back and complained that she kind of went away and never came back and she said, ‘you know.. sometimes when we are away we walk a certain distance in the meantime. And later even though we wish to come back to the same starting point, we can not because that same short distance seems too long to be traveled again’. I knew what she meant. And it was true. I thought of giving her time.
One year is a good amount of time in my opinion. So, I contacted her again after a year. She did not respond despite several emails and messages. Finally, I heard from her today.
We spoke and she told me few things. Things that she preferred to keep just to herself. She had her own reasons to be aloof for a while and I again truly understand them.
I am, no doubt, hurt that she could not and did not want to share her feelings with me but then I remember what she said to me last year. Also, she kind of made up for all that by giving me feedback on some of the posts on my blog! ‘ I keep peeping into your life and I still feel the same about you dear as I always did’ she remarked today.
I feel relaxed now. Feel easy – I waited to hear the other side of the story – her side! I am glad I did it. It saved one of the very important friendships of my life.
‘Aaar’ – this is how I call her, its better late than never. Good you responded, I understand and respect you only a bit more now.
Do you always wait to hear the other side of the story?