We normally believe that relationships are equal in nature and that both the partners have to put in equally half of the efforts to keep the relationship going. But this is not always true.
In my opinion, relationships are not always proportionate in nature. True, that a successful relationship requires both the partners to put in equal amount of time, efforts and energy, but this equality is not possible to be maintained every day and every moment of the day.
It all gets balanced out in the end but on a day-to-day basis, it is not wise to expect your partner to put exactly the same amount of energy and time as you do.
I don’t think I want equal participation from my husband at every stage as the first thing. I just want his commitment, affection and his dedication towards this relationship more than anything else.
Relationships are not like sports where you have to continuously monitor other person’s performance and pick the winner after every set. It is a relationship – companionship which has everything but competition.
In relationships, we are what we are. We don’t do anything with a motive or I should say with any motive other than to be happy together.
I find it useless to contemplate who works more or who does less. It is about enjoying the process. Just the way one student studies for an hour and scores 9, other may study for 2 hrs and still score 9. I am mostly concerned with the fact that he gives his best to our marriage. Similarly, he knows I give him my best and he is happy with it.