We normally believe that relationships are equal in nature and that both the partners have to put in equally half of the efforts to keep the relationship going. But this is not always true.
In my opinion, relationships are not always proportionate in nature. True, that a successful relationship requires both the partners to put in equal amount of time, efforts and energy, but this equality is not possible to be maintained every day and every moment of the day.
It all gets balanced out in the end but on a day-to-day basis, it is not wise to expect your partner to put exactly the same amount of energy and time as you do.
I don’t think I want equal participation from my husband at every stage as the first thing. I just want his commitment, affection and his dedication towards this relationship more than anything else.
Relationships are not like sports where you have to continuously monitor other person’s performance and pick the winner after every set. It is a relationship – companionship which has everything but competition.
In relationships, we are what we are. We don’t do anything with a motive or I should say with any motive other than to be happy together.
I find it useless to contemplate who works more or who does less. It is about enjoying the process. Just the way one student studies for an hour and scores 9, other may study for 2 hrs and still score 9. I am mostly concerned with the fact that he gives his best to our marriage. Similarly, he knows I give him my best and he is happy with it.
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When one is in a relationship, its all about enjoying each other's companionship. Once you two are one, it hardly matters who sacrifices how much because as you rightly pointed out at the end of day (life) both sacrifice almost equally. If both of you are in the relationship with your hearts completely involved, sacrifice doesn't appear sacrifice.
Ya you are right…it cannot and need not be equal. And your hubby is really sweet…running 3 kms for apples!
Hey Varsha.. welcome to Womanatics..!! 🙂 So nice to see you here but can you please suggest the places in Mumbai..? hihihi.. waiting for your comment to be rescued on IMBB..
Yeah RJ.. and I also feel that if you are happy in relationship.. it doesn't matter who has sacrificed and how much. Journey is more important. Nice to see you here RJ 😀
Thank youuuu for liking it and for writing here.. and keep smiling.. 😀
I got to read the right article at the right time:) having no maid for almost two weeks now was making me go bonkers.. I also have a 1.5 yr old kid at home..I had the exact same feeling, but I realized that my list is only longer and not wider!!! Thanks surabhi:)
aww.. I am soo happy you liked it and it could help you in some way. Purpose of this article is met 🙂 Thanks for writing in.
Nice post Surabhi 🙂 Relationship are complex yet beautiful. I believe that, when two people are committed to make a relationship work then there is equal effort from both sides to nurture and create a happy space in their lives. The key to the success of any relationship is open communication..woh khete hain na "Baat karne se hi baat banti hai". Regards.PK
I place lot of emphasis on communication as well. It is extremely important to have an open communication with your partner. It helps a lot! And you are right that both the partners have to put in equal efforts.. just that these efforts may not be equal on an every-day basis.
Nice relationship advice di.. I want more tips from u coz going to get married in November.. Finally found 'the one' for me 😛
Hey Akanksha, congratulations!!!! Many heartiest wishes to you. Lotsa love and all the very best. Muuaah.
Thank u di 🙂
Hi thiz Thomas, from kenya, actually i love this piece, and i think av got it at the right time, am 23, not in relationship, still doing research, this will be my reference page everyday. and i also like the way you reply to almost if not all replies, thumbs up mrs,