Relationships are like living entities. They breathe, they grow and they also die. To prosper and to grow, every relationship needs nutrition in the form of open communication, love, respect, trust and commitment and great care and nurturing.
There is one thing that works like a manure. A thing that is like oxygen to living beings and fertilizing manure to tender plants.
The most important thing that makes any relationship work is the commitment – the willingness – to make it work.
If the two partners are not willing to make the relationship survive, no matter how much respect they have for one another or how much trust they hold on each other, no relationship can sustain.
It is this willingness that makes your partner do things that he won’t do otherwise, had he not been willing to make it work.
It is this willingness and commitment to make your relationship successful that you quit your job and decided to support your spouse and family while sacrificing your own personal and professional ambitions.
Many relationships die an early death because the partners gave up on each other too soon. Because one of them never wanted to be in it. It doesn’t matter if they were the right people for each other.
What matters is whether the two people who have decided to be together actually make efforts to be together or not.
We all enter long term commitment with the intent of making it long lasting. With the hopes that this relationship will survive forever. Still, 53% marriages in the USA end up in divorce. Why?
It has to do with the willingness that I talked about in the beginning of this post.
The wish to make your relationship successful includes being forgiving in nature. It means staying committed to your partner. It leads to taking care of your loved one.
Many feel love is the basic ingredient of any happy marriage. While I agree love adds a fantastic flavor to the whole recipe, the overall taste and consistency comes from churning the right ingredients with the right pressure and at the right heat.
Love changes with time. It grows. We all fall in and out of love many times. And with the same person.
Trust works two ways. It has to be earned and it has to be placed from both the parties.
Communication is much needed but sometimes some things are better left unsaid particularly when you are angry and furious at your partner.
It is the commitment to the growth of the relationship that nurtures it the way a relationship should be taken care of.
Both the partners should be committed to each other’s happiness and growth. They should be willing to let each other reach their highest potential as individuals.
If such commitment is missing, if this willingness does not exist, if it next to impossible for any relationship to thrive and sustain beyond few years.
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