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Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence ~ Aristotle
Who does not want to be happy? We all do. In our own ways. Some want more money, some want a little more fame, some wish for a true loved one while some long for peace. We always yearn for something that we don’t have and it is this yearning that keeps us going. We keep moving in the hope that some day we will get it, buy it or find it as a steal and we will be happy that day.
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Sadly, it is farce. It never happens. The list of wants is a never ending list that only keeps growing as you move forward. Also, happiness is not a thing that is found somewhere. It is not a commodity that is sold in market so that we can buy it and nor it is a untangible emotion that is available with good luck. Indeed, it is intangible but it exists within.
Why does it happen? Why some ‘nothing-in-particular’ thing makes us happy? Because, with few things, the external stimuli strikes a chord with our internal self.
In my opinion, these few things can be categories into the following three secrets to happiness:
1. Good relationships. We have a biological need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.
2. Positive thinking. I’m obviously a big proponent of positive thinking as the best way to achieve your goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too. Optimism and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life. Action steps: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of “I can’t” think “I can”. It may sound cliched, but it has worked for me, every time.
3. Follow your heart. Doing something that we are passionate about not only gives us a sense of contentment but also fills our heart with immense joy. The super hit movie 3 idiots talks about the same concept. Action steps: Find out what you genuinely enjoy. If you cant plunge into it immediately, take small steps but only do something that truly engages you.
Surabhi, Hi! I have been meaning to comment on your posts, but somehow time gets away from me. Whenever I read your posts, I feel as though what you say is so obvious then why do people not get it? But then I realize that the simplest things are the hardest to follow. But you do seem to have it going and it shows in your writing. Keep going…. we all need people like you in our lives. Love, Rama
Hi Rama,
I can't tell you how happy I am to see your comment. Blogging gets very tough at times.. and I too lose my patience and feel like quitting but then comments like these get me going again. I must say I need people like you who can encourage me to write better and to continue with it.
Thanks a ton!
hey surabhi… lemme compliment u frst.. u luk beautiful wid dat bful smile.. i find my happiness by making peace(actually call it a compromise ) wid my past n sum other things which i just cant change… if nothing was in my hands den y to make fuss about.. i find my happiness by luving myself more… d one whom i was ignoring frm past sooo many years i.e. ME is vry happy to get myself bck.. Tk car.. Stay blessed..
Hey dear,
Thank you for the compliment. What you are doing in life is actually the best thing to do. Things that are beyond our care are best to be made peace with. ANd loving oneself is the biggest source of happiness. Thanks for writing to me. 🙂
Hello Surabhi…. I was feeling bored and started browsing the net .. suddenly I found this blog.. not sure how I got this… I find it interesting and started reading it…. I am liking it very much…. It is filling me with enthusiasm and joy again…. My positive spirits are going high… Love to read your blog…. Thanks a mill for writing ………. Yours Anamika !!
Hi Anamika..
Thanks for such kind words. I am honored. Thanks again. And keep visiting us. You guys are the real reason behind this blog!
Thanks that you have replied.. Now whenever I read your blog.. I feel like you are talking to me…. All your posts gives me lot of inspiration…. Keep Going !! Yours Anamika !!
It was vely intlesting 1 uuuh i can’t tell you how much this blog has filled me with happiness. I found myself Thanks:-)
Hey my dear u hav inspired me, waw 3 good secret of being happy, i hav startd it and is workin.keep it up.
Thank you.